'I like my neck licked and nipples rubbed but fella can't understand easy instructions'

Dear Jane: I'm unsure whether my boyfriend struggles to grasp instructions, or simply isn't bothered about what I'm attempting to communicate.

Our intimate life is tedious and lacklustre yet it doesn't have to be. I repeatedly explain to him what excites me between the sheets. I enjoy having my neck kissed and my nipples caressed.

These are my erogenous zones and if they receive time and care, then I'm absolutely passionate. However, he simply doesn't comprehend it. We climb into bed, and he heads straight for the main event.

He disregards my appeals for foreplay and enjoyment, favouring complete intercourse. What can be done?

JANE SAYS: If you've truly outlined what you enjoy, and your partner remains unable to implement the alterations you crave, then I must wonder whether he's suitable for you.

Speak with him once more outside the bedroom. Do you damage his ego with your suggestions?

You merit thoughtfulness and fulfilment.

If your enjoyment means nothing to him, there's a risk this indifference might spread into other aspects of your relationship?

Where are his thoughts if they're not focused on you?

My user hubby living the dream

MY former husband resides in a stunning flat where he hosts male and female companions. He adores our children and provides well, yet I can't stop feeling resentful. The reality is that he exploited me to advance up the professional ladder.

He wed me on my 21st birthday. I was attractive and naive. I maintained a spotless household and he paraded me about whenever he had individuals to charm and wow. We presented a secure, steady partnership and his superiors gave their blessing.

It was only when he launched his own business and became his own boss that he gave me the boot. He's confessed that I lent him credibility and claims that we used each other but that's not my perspective. I'm 38.

JANE SAYS: No one would blame you for feeling disappointed but try and look at the positives.

Today you are an independent woman with wonderful children. You cant allow your ex-husbands ruthless actions to undermine your future.

Sadly, life doesnt always run smoothly, and people do disappoint us along the way, but youre still you and youve got a big future.

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