Husband and wife invite woman to join 'throuple' - and take turns sleeping in the middle

A married couple have invited a younger women into their relationship and told how they take it in turns to sleep in the middle.

Christopher Alesich, 43, is married to wife Robyn, 47, and both of them have also "tied the knot" to Amanda, the third person in their "throuple". The couple invited Amanda into their home in Florida two years ago and they live together as one family.

Robyn said: "Truly being in love, loving two people so deeply that you would do anything for them, is the most magical feeling. We are a family, and thats all that matters."

They made their bond official with a spiritual wedding and a commitment ceremony earlier this month. Robyn said it "cemented their devotion" to one another and marked an exciting future.

The women "married" in the commitment ceremony and Amanda and Chris tied the knot in the "spiritual" wedding. Robyn said it was her idea to invite a new wife into their marriage on their 22nd wedding anniversary.

She added: "Ive wanted to bring somebody else into the marriage for as long as I can remember. Ive always wanted to have a bigger family."

The couple, from Florida, met in 2002 and married two years later. They have been polyamorous for a number of years, though in the early days, their dating efforts were a disaster.

After marrying in 2004, they were monogamous until a close female friend moved in with them. At the time, they were trying for children and the friend had offered to be a surrogate.

Over time, feelings developed, although none of them quite knew what to call the relationship. Christopher added: There was no structure, there was no knowledge. None of us knew how to handle it."

When it ended, the couple were left heartbroken and confused. They went on to date others, including one with a woman who moved in with her three children, and another in 2019 that Christopher describes as deeply damaging.

None of them worked out and they eventually decided to give up on polyamory until they met Amanda. The connection between the three of them developed quickly and naturally, they said.

Robyn said: "Id always known I was attracted to women and men at the same time. Ive just never known how to make it work. When we met Amanda, it was just an instant family."

Amanda quickly became an important part of their lives, and the three of them soon settled into their relationship. The couple quickly moved in together.

Robyn said: "It was scary at first. You go through those thoughts as a woman. You think: am I going to be replaced?" But over time, they worked out how to make the relationship work. They sleep in one super-king bed, taking the middle spot in turns.

The biggest challenge, they say, is communication and making sure no one feels less important than the others.

Amanda said: There is no hierarchy in our relationship. Theres no wife that matters more than the other. Its an equal partnership. It can be complicated, but its a wonderful life to have.

The three also work together through Matchmakers, Inc., the company behind Sister Wives, where Christopher is CEO, Robyn as COO, and Amanda works in Media and Client Relations.

For Amanda, it is not polyamory so much as a closed three-person partnership. She added: "It is monogamy, just with three people. I always felt like I could love more than one person."

Moving in wasnt an easy transition for Amanda, who admits she struggled in the beginning and felt left out. The three say that, like any relationship, it took time, communication and trust to build a strong foundation.

But in daily life, they all say the practicalities are less dramatic than outsiders might imagine, and that they have found a natural rhythm together, sharing a room and distributing chores in the same way as any other household.

They manage feelings of jealousy well, with Christopher explaining: "Jealousy can happen in any relationship, even polyamorous ones, whether people expect that or not.

"The difference in our relationship is how it's dealt with; thats the key to keeping a successful, healthy marriage. We discuss it straight away."

Robyn added: "Jealousy in a polyamorous relationship feels exactly like it would in a monogamous one. Communication and keeping things equal can initially feel like a lot, but confronting jealousy upfront honestly makes it more manageable."

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