'Boyfriend is demanding a fivesome with his mates and a sex worker or he'll dump me'

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Unwashed and tricky

My boyfriend plays with my mind.

I sometimes wonder if he deliberately tries to drive me insane. He winds me up; does things that he knows I hate and laughs when I react.

My mate says hes the cruellest person shes ever met and shes dated some monsters in her time.

For example; Ive told him a million times that I dont like him vaping in the flat because it makes me feel sick, yet he regularly looks me in the eye, pulls out a fruity e-cig and puffs away right in front of me.

Any time I walk into a room he flips open his laptop and turns ON porn.

The latest thing is that he wants us to have a sex party with two of his most revolting mates and a hooker. He claims that this is a relationship breaker. If I refuse to join in, then hell leave me.

I hate his mates who are unwashed, tricky and make me feel uncomfortable. As for the poor hooker, why on earth would I want to pay for sex with another woman?

I cant help but feel that hes deliberately trying to push my buttons here. It seems as if hes doing everything in his power to bring me to boiling point.

If I complain about his selfish behaviour he says: What are you going to do about it? Its like he is willing me to walk out and leave him.

Sometimes I wonder if he wants to spend the rest of his life with me at all. I know that all couples go through sticky patches, but our relationship is drowning in quicksand.

Why is he so unreasonable and cruel? What is he trying to achieve?

JANE SAYS: If your guy is too cowardly to admit that his feelings have changed, then you need to take the upper hand and bring this sordid relationship to an end.

I know its humiliating, terrifying and inconvenient to find yourself suddenly alone, but what other choice do you have? The man clearly doesnt care about your mental health or safety, so you must start putting yourself first by going it alone.

My suspicion is that your man would like this relationship to end, only he hasnt got the bottle to tell you goodbye. Instead, he thinks by chipping away at your confidence and patience that youll finally blow your top and leave him alone.

Sadly, on an everyday level he has no respect nor regard for you. He deliberately does things that he knows upset you.

Now, to demand that two of his nastiest friends come into your home, with a professional sex worker, for a sleazy party, must be the final straw. What further indignation could there be?

Why on earth would you ever agree to that?

I feel this is a deliberate attempt at provocation on your blokes part.

Turn to trusted friends and family for help and support. Clearly your oldest pal can see him for the creep he is. Dont feel guilty and dont look back.

Suits you

I only see my girlfriend when it suits her.

She only wants me for my hot showers, fresh food and comfy bed. She loves to travel its her passion but she thinks nothing of crashing at mine when funds run low. When I accuse her of using me, she makes out that I'm unreasonable and mean. Am I?

JANE SAYS: Plenty of people do have unconventional arrangements, which work for them but if you dont like the way your on/off girlfriend treats you, then you must tell her, no more.

Clearly, she views your cosy home as her refuge. But if shes not paying her way, respecting your wishes or making you happy, then shell have to make alternative arrangements. I bet she cant believe that shes still getting away with this.

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