'He said I was rubbish in bed and now I'm scared to ever have sex again'

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Anticlimax

The one time I tried to have sex with my ex-boyfriend it was a disaster. He climaxed within a second of entering me and then screamed that everything was my fault. He said I was ugly and unsexy and put him off. That terrible experience has left me with a hundred hang-ups.

Theres a guy on my estate that I like, but Ive been too terrified to try sex since.

JANE SAYS: You cant let that first; bad experience destroy your sexual confidence forever. Your ex-boyfriend was clearly embarrassed. Take your time with this new guy. Make friends with him.

Go slowly and, when you feel ready for sex, try again in calm, comfortable surroundings. Presumably your ex has gone on to love again so why shouldnt you? Go and see your GP if you feel you need professional help.

Crafty customer

Im sick of being undermined by a creep of a co-worker. He gets a kick out of interrupting and correcting me. Recently, I managed to get a meeting with a prospective client. I booked a private room in a flashy restaurant. Only HE turned up too. I kept hissing at him to return to the office for an important meeting but he wouldnt take the hint. Instead, he talked over me and took all the credit for resulting contract himself.

How do I get him to respect me without this becoming an issue between us?

JANE SAYS: This isnt a game. You now need to show your teeth and make it very clear to this muppet that he must never pull a stunt like that again. Clearly, hes wary and jealous of you. He can see that youre good; that you have ideas and drive. Therefore, he feels undermined and threatened. Well, thats very unfortunate, but thats his problem.

Keep on doing what youre doing; hold your nerve and get results. The people around you arent stupid; theyll soon begin to see how pathetic hes being. I think you should speak to your boss or someone in your HR department about this situation. Make a formal complaint. Also keep a diary and write down your experiences and thoughts. He must understand that you will not be bought down.

Phone alone

My best friend doesnt make any time for me.

All she does is text and send me funny links and jokes. We used to catch up every week for a coffee, but now shes too busy. The last time I saw her was in June.

We met for a sandwich lunch and she spent the whole time looking at her phone. I started telling her about the problems Im experiencing at work, and she took a twenty minute call from her sister.

We used to have such a great relationship and a real laugh. Now, I feel like a nuisance.

JANE SAYS: Accept that youre not as important to your friend as you used to be. Shes moved on. Fiddling with her phone while you were trying to tell her something important was plain rude. If youre inclined to give her one, last chance, then ask for a phone-free face-to-face. Does she feel that youve run your course and that the friendship is over? Or is she willing to grow up and treat you with respect like a real friend?

However, if youre not inclined to indulge her again, then brush yourself off and accept that shes headed in a new direction. You need to find yourself some different pals and not look back.

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